Change is coming at lightning speed and we have all adjusted how we interact with the world around us. It can create depleting emotions or we can practice connecting with renewing emotions. How we think and feel need attention and energy, just like our electronics need recharging.
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When I was young, my parents gave me a transistor radio. It was mustard yellow and had the option for AM or FM. There was even an antenna. My parents worked to help me understand the difference between AM and FM. It didn’t really matter much to me. What I wanted most was to listen to the music that made me feel happy. It worked!
Connecting with music made my heart feel full and happy. It still does.
Today, as I was listening to news updates and reading about the value and necessity of Social Distancing, I felt more grateful for technology. Through the collaborative efforts of many – I have the ability to connect with friends and family without being in the same physical space. And hearing their voices or reading their words and seeing their pictures made my heart happy, just like music. The connections feel like music of the heart.
So many people are working to honor the need to shelter in place, self-quarantine and simply stay home or learning how to distance socially. This is easier for some and more difficult for others. However, if we hold space so that our most vulnerable lives might be spared the suffering of this disease, let us remember to connect authentically.
We may feel isolated or lonely, but we don’t have to. We can call, text, send pics or videos. People are exploring new methods of helping, connecting and encouraging well being. Our emotions ebb and flow. We need connection. So how do we do that while honoring the instructions for social distancing? Connect with the heart. Reach out, listen, encourage and see if your connections can amplify compassion and encouragement just like a transistor radio did for me so many years ago.
Honor Social Distancing ~ and ~ Honor the need for Connection. Technology can build the bridge that isolation does not. Bring music and joy to the people in your arena. We are in this together.
Our current state of technology and a flood of information is a double-edged sword. On one side, things tend to run more effectively and information empowers us to accomplish more in one day than our ancestors could in a life time. On the flip side – its chaos. . . which seems to be a common experience. A state of overwhelm that begins to manifest in a state of survival.
There is a term for the chaos side: It’s INFOBESITY. An excess of information that complicates rational decision-making. Simply put: Information Overload. When we get overwhelmed, we move from generous and creative mindsets to survival, critical and competitive. There might be a middle way. It is up to each of us to manage opening that space.
So as we all focus on being wise decision makers, and conscious consumers, it’s important to manage and perhaps limit the amount of social and media input. Too much is a hoard. Prolonged it’s not helpful. It generates fear, cultivates a sense of lack and panic.
Information is good, when balanced with humanity. We all share this planet and the same basic needs.
Today’s tip: Leverage technology and information wisely.
Compassionately and collaboratively navigate choices. Each person we encounter may be doing their best. They may have a different approach or style.
It is not helpful for us to scold or criticize others.
We cannot manage or control others. We can only manage ourselves and our choices.
Self Care: Manage information intake and verbal and emotive output:
A research study conducted by Globoforce found that 89% of people are more motivated by being told what they are doing right than by being told what they are doing wrong. And – nearly 80% looked for this recognition to be given close to the time of the activity. Somehow we seem to know this, but we get stuck between thinking it and expressing it.
Acknowledging good work is powerful. It is a basic human need. We all want to feel like we matter. None of us is successful without cooperation and hard work of others.
There are infinite ways to acknowledge people. Here are a few ideas:
Say “Thank You”: It’s a powerful phrase. Don’t wait to say it. Tell them now.
Focus on the Positive: Assume positive intent and balance your problem-solving mindset with acknowledging what’s also helpful.
Be Present: Be Here Now. One way is to make eye contact: it demonstrates you are not distracted and that you are connected to the conversation.
Everyone has a “start” to our day. . . a unique way of transition from rest to activity. What choices do you face each morning? Which are mindful and which are habituated? Where do you wear a mask? WHY?
Authentically facing your day is a choice. It’s when you honor your personality, values, and spirit, regardless of the pressure to act otherwise. That’s not to say you won’t need to adjust your approach from time to time. You can make intentional adjustments while sustaining your authenticity. It’s how to connect, build and nurture trust, in all of your relationships.
It isn’t always easy to be authentic. Mindfulness is a practice of being aware and engages you with each moment as it arrives. You won’t always know the right thing immediately, but you bring integrity when you are fully yourself.
In that space is our power to choose our response.
In our response lies our growth and freedom.”
~Viktor E. Frankl
Our success and happiness are created between what happens and how we respond. Sometimes the space between stimulus and response seems like a nano-second. We get accustomed to moving and reacting quickly. Think about it. Traffic, deadlines, and pressure demand so much that we spend most of our energy before lunch. . . leaving us depleted and not at our best.
Energy is fluid. Imagine that its water in a bucket. Now imagine that bucket is your only source of water all day. When you take a drink , you’ll need to find time to refill if you want to still have water later in the day. Some of us have many people drinking from our bucket. . . How full is your bucket?
Buckets spill. Some are full of holes. Noticing your bucket and refilling periodically increase the potential of having enough water throughout your day. If you fail to notice or refill, you will run out of water before you run out of day. Same goes with your energy.
Our energy shows up in thoughts and emotions. How we think and how we feel drive our behaviors. Have you noticed what’s in your bucket? Is your energy full or depleted? It starts with noticing. Proactive or reactive, it’s up to you.
Behavior is the product of our thoughts & emotions
The things we notice create our experience
How we manage our energy shows up in our behavior
Behavior is a choice
We each have a bucket. If you’re feeling cranky – you’re bucket is probably low or empty. If your people around you are cranky – they may have an empty bucket. Open the space between stimulus and response. Find where you can refill, renew and replenish. Notice your bucket – – -your energy. Success and happiness usually include a full bucket.