We often hear counsel to keep our eye on the ball. It may be literal, in reference to a game we are playing or striving to master. . . It may also be figurative, to open our minds and awareness to what we might not otherwise notice.

As we explore the newness of a world that seems chaotic, we can choose to be curious or critical. We can be both. Before we jump to conclusions or strive to redirect another person, what if we keep our eye on the ball… our own?

Moods are tough to manage. They are also the foundation of behavior. It’s common for us to read about or blurt our our own opinions in an attempt to find familiar territory, only to further isolate ourselves from the connection we seek. The practice and application of Emotional Intelligence allows space for us to explore and invest our energy with intention.

When you find yourself in the midst of conflict or wondering why you can’t get people to cooperate, think about your M.B.A. Moods, Behavior and Accountability. Keep your eye on the ball. Notice what people do when they don’t have the ball and how they perceive the ball. It’s not the same for each of us. Self awareness is the foundation for meaningful connections. Connect with your own M.B.A. for the win!

Change is coming at lightning speed and we have all adjusted how we interact with the world around us. It can create depleting emotions or we can practice connecting with renewing emotions. How we think and feel need attention and energy, just like our electronics need recharging.

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When I was  young, my parents gave me a transistor radio. It was mustard yellow and had the option for AM or FM. There was even an antenna. My parents worked to help me understand the difference between AM and FM. It didn’t really matter much to me. What I wanted most was to listen to the music that made me feel happy. It worked!

Connecting with music made my heart feel full and happy. It still does.

Today, as I was listening to news updates and reading about the value and necessity of Social Distancing, I felt more grateful for technology. Through the collaborative efforts of many – I have the ability to connect with friends and family without being in the same physical space. And hearing their voices or reading their words and seeing their pictures made my heart happy, just like music. The connections feel like music of the heart.

So many people are working to honor the need to shelter in place, self-quarantine and simply stay home or learning how to distance socially. This is easier for some and more difficult for others. However, if we hold space so that our most vulnerable lives might be spared the suffering of this disease, let us remember to connect authentically.

We may feel isolated or lonely, but we don’t have to. We can call, text, send pics or videos. People are exploring new methods of helping, connecting and encouraging well being. Our emotions ebb and flow. We need connection. So how do we do that while honoring the instructions for social distancing? Connect with the heart. Reach out, listen, encourage and see if your connections can amplify compassion and encouragement just like a transistor radio did for me so many years ago.

Honor Social Distancing ~ and ~ Honor the need for Connection. Technology can build the bridge that isolation does not. Bring music and joy to the people in your arena. We are in this together.

#addHeart #ShiftHappens #resilience

A shift in perspective can shift our experience. Sometimes it broadens our view and opens up a more positive impact.

What if we move from fixating on our viewpoint?

Is it possible there is more to what we think?

#ShiftHappens   #GetYourShiftTogether   #Resilience 

Is it possible to care deeply without depleting our energy or harming our health?

Genuine care and compassion are two of the most life-fulfilling coherent heart qualities we can cultivate.

♥    However, it’s so easy for our care to turn into worry, anxiety, energy drain, and burn out – what we call the overcare syndrome .

♥   We can prevent much of this with a little practice once we know how.

Excessive worry is easy to justify because it fools us into thinking that amped up worrying is when we are caring the most.

♥   However, research has shown that constant worrying not only drains energy but blocks us from seeing creative choices and solutions.

Taking charge of our personal energy is something no one else can do for us.

Today’s Tip: Shift from Overcare to Balanced Care. 

Shifting from Overcare to Balanced Care

Calm emotions help create space that enables intuitive access

for clearer discernment and choices.

Our current state of technology and a flood of information is a double-edged sword. On one side, things tend to run more effectively and information empowers us to accomplish more in one day than our ancestors could in a life time. On the flip side – its chaos. . . which seems to be a common experience. A state of overwhelm that begins to manifest in a state of survival.

There is a term for the chaos side: It’s INFOBESITY.  An excess of information that complicates rational decision-making. Simply put: Information Overload. When we get overwhelmed, we move from generous and creative mindsets to survival, critical and competitive. There might be a middle way. It is up to each of us to manage opening that space.

So as we all focus on being wise decision makers, and conscious consumers, it’s important to manage and perhaps limit the amount of social and media input. Too much is a hoard. Prolonged it’s not helpful.  It generates fear, cultivates a sense of lack and panic.

Information is good, when balanced with humanity. We all share this planet and the same basic needs.

Today’s tip: Leverage technology and information wisely. 

• Compassionately and collaboratively navigate choices. Each person we encounter may be doing their best. They may have a different approach or style.
• It is not helpful for us to scold or criticize others.
• We cannot manage or control others. We can only manage ourselves and our choices.
• Self Care: Manage information intake and verbal and emotive output:
  • Practice mindfulness ~ Be in each moment.
  • Consider heart-focused breathing.
  • and remember:

We are all in this together!

A research study conducted by Globoforce found that 89% of people are more motivated by being told what they are doing right than by being told what they are doing wrong. And – nearly 80% looked for this recognition to be given close to the time of the activity. Somehow we seem to know this, but we get stuck between thinking it and expressing it.

Acknowledging good work is powerful. It is a basic human need. We all want to feel like we matter. None of us is successful without cooperation and hard work of others.

There are infinite ways to acknowledge people. Here are a few ideas:

1. Say “Thank You”: It’s a powerful phrase. Don’t wait to say it. Tell them now.
2. Focus on the Positive: Assume positive intent and balance your problem-solving mindset with acknowledging what’s also helpful.
3. Be Present: Be Here Now. One way is to make eye contact: it demonstrates you are not distracted and that you are connected to the conversation.

Be bold!

Get Your Gratitude On!

Acknowledge. Appreciate. Encourage!

Everyone  has a “start” to our day. . . a unique way of transition from rest to activity. What choices do you face each morning? Which are mindful and which are habituated? Where do you wear a mask? WHY?

Authentically facing your day is a choice. It’s when you honor your personality, values, and spirit, regardless of the pressure to act otherwise. That’s not to say you won’t need to adjust your approach from time to time. You can make intentional adjustments while sustaining your authenticity. It’s how to connect, build and nurture trust, in all of your relationships.

It isn’t always easy to be authentic.  Mindfulness is a practice of being aware and engages you with each moment as it arrives. You won’t always know the right thing immediately, but you bring integrity when you are fully yourself.

In his book Awake At Work , Michael Carroll writes,

“By connecting to the place where we feel most authentic in the work, we can go beyond role playing in our jobs. In turn, an “ethics of authenticity” emerges and real work moves forward.”

Today’s Tip:                                                                                                                                      

• Notice the different faces / masks you wear
  • Ask yourself:
    • How does this mask serve my relationship?
    • What am I hiding and why?
    • Will this mask strengthen my relationship or does it create a divide/gap?
• Notice the choices you face
  • Ask yourself:
    • What am I doing well? (authenticity)
    • What could I do differently or better? (adjust)
    • How can I face future choices authentically, and where will I adjust?

You can change proactively or re-actively.

“Most people wait for crisis, trauma, disease or diagnosis
to make up their mind to change.
And my message is why wait?”

~Dr. Joe Dispenza

Knowing our job and playing a role are two different things.

We think our roles are what others expect. . . which leads us to do and say things that inflate our role.  In the long run it’s exhausting – for us and others.

Authenticity is the opposite of playing a role. It is more about managing yourself and less about changing others.

Be who you are while engaging in your WORK* is a most powerful combination.

*WORK = is life work. It includes your employment, your professional, social and personal life and how you navigate it.