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When I was  young, my parents gave me a transistor radio. It was mustard yellow and had the option for AM or FM. There was even an antenna. My parents worked to help me understand the difference between AM and FM. It didn’t really matter much to me. What I wanted most was to listen to the music that made me feel happy. It worked!

Connecting with music made my heart feel full and happy. It still does.

Today, as I was listening to news updates and reading about the value and necessity of Social Distancing, I felt more grateful for technology. Through the collaborative efforts of many – I have the ability to connect with friends and family without being in the same physical space. And hearing their voices or reading their words and seeing their pictures made my heart happy, just like music. The connections feel like music of the heart.

So many people are working to honor the need to shelter in place, self-quarantine and simply stay home or learning how to distance socially. This is easier for some and more difficult for others. However, if we hold space so that our most vulnerable lives might be spared the suffering of this disease, let us remember to connect authentically.

We may feel isolated or lonely, but we don’t have to. We can call, text, send pics or videos. People are exploring new methods of helping, connecting and encouraging well being. Our emotions ebb and flow. We need connection. So how do we do that while honoring the instructions for social distancing? Connect with the heart. Reach out, listen, encourage and see if your connections can amplify compassion and encouragement just like a transistor radio did for me so many years ago.

Honor Social Distancing ~ and ~ Honor the need for Connection. Technology can build the bridge that isolation does not. Bring music and joy to the people in your arena. We are in this together.

#addHeart #ShiftHappens #resilience

A shift in perspective can shift our experience. Sometimes it broadens our view and opens up a more positive impact.

What if we move from fixating on our viewpoint?

Is it possible there is more to what we think?

#ShiftHappens   #GetYourShiftTogether   #Resilience 

Is it possible to care deeply without depleting our energy or harming our health?

Genuine care and compassion are two of the most life-fulfilling coherent heart qualities we can cultivate.

♥    However, it’s so easy for our care to turn into worry, anxiety, energy drain, and burn out – what we call the overcare syndrome .

♥   We can prevent much of this with a little practice once we know how.

Excessive worry is easy to justify because it fools us into thinking that amped up worrying is when we are caring the most.

♥   However, research has shown that constant worrying not only drains energy but blocks us from seeing creative choices and solutions.

Taking charge of our personal energy is something no one else can do for us.

Today’s Tip: Shift from Overcare to Balanced Care. 

Shifting from Overcare to Balanced Care

 

Calm emotions help create space that enables intuitive access

for clearer discernment and choices.

Our current state of technology and a flood of information is a double-edged sword. On one side, things tend to run more effectively and information empowers us to accomplish more in one day than our ancestors could in a life time. On the flip side – its chaos. . . which seems to be a common experience. A state of overwhelm that begins to manifest in a state of survival.

There is a term for the chaos side: It’s INFOBESITY.  An excess of information that complicates rational decision-making. Simply put: Information Overload. When we get overwhelmed, we move from generous and creative mindsets to survival, critical and competitive. There might be a middle way. It is up to each of us to manage opening that space.

So as we all focus on being wise decision makers, and conscious consumers, it’s important to manage and perhaps limit the amount of social and media input. Too much is a hoard. Prolonged it’s not helpful.  It generates fear, cultivates a sense of lack and panic.

Information is good, when balanced with humanity. We all share this planet and the same basic needs.

Today’s tip: Leverage technology and information wisely. 

• Compassionately and collaboratively navigate choices. Each person we encounter may be doing their best. They may have a different approach or style.
• It is not helpful for us to scold or criticize others.
• We cannot manage or control others. We can only manage ourselves and our choices.
• Self Care: Manage information intake and verbal and emotive output:
  • Practice mindfulness ~ Be in each moment.
  • Consider heart-focused breathing.
  • and remember:

We are all in this together!

 

A research study conducted by Globoforce found that 89% of people are more motivated by being told what they are doing right than by being told what they are doing wrong. And – nearly 80% looked for this recognition to be given close to the time of the activity. Somehow we seem to know this, but we get stuck between thinking it and expressing it.

Acknowledging good work is powerful. It is a basic human need. We all want to feel like we matter. None of us is successful without cooperation and hard work of others.

There are infinite ways to acknowledge people. Here are a few ideas:

1. Say “Thank You”: It’s a powerful phrase. Don’t wait to say it. Tell them now.
2. Focus on the Positive: Assume positive intent and balance your problem-solving mindset with acknowledging what’s also helpful.
3. Be Present: Be Here Now. One way is to make eye contact: it demonstrates you are not distracted and that you are connected to the conversation.

Be bold!

Get Your Gratitude On!

Acknowledge. Appreciate. Encourage!

Everyone  has a “start” to our day. . . a unique way of transition from rest to activity. What choices do you face each morning? Which are mindful and which are habituated? Where do you wear a mask? WHY?

Authentically facing your day is a choice. It’s when you honor your personality, values, and spirit, regardless of the pressure to act otherwise. That’s not to say you won’t need to adjust your approach from time to time. You can make intentional adjustments while sustaining your authenticity. It’s how to connect, build and nurture trust, in all of your relationships.

It isn’t always easy to be authentic.  Mindfulness is a practice of being aware and engages you with each moment as it arrives. You won’t always know the right thing immediately, but you bring integrity when you are fully yourself.

In his book Awake At Work , Michael Carroll writes,

“By connecting to the place where we feel most authentic in the work, we can go beyond role playing in our jobs. In turn, an “ethics of authenticity” emerges and real work moves forward.”

Today’s Tip:                                                                                                                                      

• Notice the different faces / masks you wear
  • Ask yourself:
    • How does this mask serve my relationship?
    • What am I hiding and why?
    • Will this mask strengthen my relationship or does it create a divide/gap?
• Notice the choices you face
  • Ask yourself:
    • What am I doing well? (authenticity)
    • What could I do differently or better? (adjust)
    • How can I face future choices authentically, and where will I adjust?

You can change proactively or re-actively.

“Most people wait for crisis, trauma, disease or diagnosis
to make up their mind to change.
And my message is why wait?”

~Dr. Joe Dispenza

 

Knowing our job and playing a role are two different things.

We think our roles are what others expect. . . which leads us to do and say things that inflate our role.  In the long run it’s exhausting – for us and others.

Authenticity is the opposite of playing a role. It is more about managing yourself and less about changing others.

Be who you are while engaging in your WORK* is a most powerful combination.

*WORK = is life work. It includes your employment, your professional, social and personal life and how you navigate it. 

 

 

“Between stimulus and response there is a space.

In that space is our power to choose our response.

In our response lies our growth and freedom.”

~Viktor E. Frankl

Our  success and happiness are created between what happens and how we respond. Sometimes the space between stimulus and response seems like a nano-second. We get accustomed to moving and reacting quickly. Think about it. Traffic, deadlines,  and pressure demand so much that we spend most of our energy before lunch. . . leaving us depleted and not at our best.

Energy is fluid. Imagine that its water in a bucket. Now imagine that bucket is your only source of water all day. When you take a drink , you’ll need to find time to refill if you want to still have water later in the day.  Some of us have many people drinking from our bucket. . . How full is your bucket?

Buckets spill. Some are full of holes. Noticing your bucket and refilling periodically increase the potential of  having enough water throughout your day. If you fail to notice or refill, you will run out of water before you run out of day.  Same goes with your energy.

Our energy shows up in thoughts and emotions. How we think and how we feel drive our behaviors. Have you noticed what’s in your bucket? Is your energy full or depleted? It starts with noticing. Proactive or reactive, it’s up to you.

Consider this: 

1. Behavior is the product of our thoughts & emotions
2. The things we notice create our experience
3. How we manage our energy shows up in our behavior
4. Behavior is a choice
5. Decide.

 

We each have a bucket. If you’re feeling cranky – you’re bucket is probably low or empty. If your people around you are cranky – they may have an empty bucket. Open the space between stimulus and response. Find where you can refill, renew and replenish. Notice your bucket – – -your energy. Success and happiness usually include a full bucket.

 

 

The problem is

People look for unconditional acceptance

Carrying a bag full of conditions